My x boyfriend cheated on me, and then left me for the girl he cheated on me with.I found out I was pregnant, and he told me he wanted nothing to do with me or my baby because hes with someone. I was devastated because I was in love with him, and I had a misscariage which made me feel even worse. I have a new boyfriend now, and hes everything my x wasnt. He actually really loves me, and I know that he would never hurt me. The only problem is that I get mad at him for every little thing. I feel like I take out on him what my x has done to me. It makes me feel so guilty because even though i act like this he still treats me like a queen. I dont understand I have the guy of my dreams, and im slowly pushing him away, but i dont know how to stop because I have so much anger in me about my past. Can someone please give me some advice or tell me what to do because I dont have any idea. I feel like everything i do is wrong.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 2:02 AM on Jul. 23, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by homealone_10 at 2:11 AM on Jul. 23, 2009
I would start by talking to your boyfriend and tell him the truth about how you feel. Ask him for help. Maybe go see a counselor by yourself, or with your boyfriend. If he really loves you like you say he does, I'm sure he is going to support you and help you. And make a concious decision everytime you feel yourself getting angry to stop and relax and talk about it with him. Realize when you're upset and why and try to figure out a way to fix why you're so mad. That is what I have had to do with my mom. We used to fight all the time, because I would get so annoyed with her. But after I started talking to her and understanding what I was so mad about things got better. I still get mad and annoyed but now I think before I get upset. I hope this helps
Answer by nico409ant at 2:16 AM on Jul. 23, 2009
Answer by 2boymama at 3:11 AM on Jul. 23, 2009
Answer by goincrzynonnie at 4:50 AM on Jul. 23, 2009
You need some alone time. You don't have to break up w/ this wonderful guy, but you need some time to clear your head & to put the past relationship resentment you have away. Why even be in a relationship w/ a wonderful guy if your going to treat him bad? If you truly care about this guy, then why do you not respect him? You need to respect the person your with, & treat them how you would like to be treated too. You don't have respect for this guy if it is so easy to treat him badly.
Answer by samurai_chica at 8:39 AM on Jul. 23, 2009
How long between your EX and your new Boyfriend, as in weeks months, years? It sounds to me like you didn't give yourself enough time between guys to get totallyover the EX. You should give yourself a year or two after your miscarriage.
Answer by louise2 at 8:52 AM on Jul. 23, 2009
Answer by NannyB. at 8:57 AM on Jul. 23, 2009
Answer by robinann5 at 9:51 AM on Jul. 23, 2009