My best friend (S) is engaged to a wonderful man, who just happens to be twice her age with a 13 year old daughter. They have been together for two years and waited about eight months to introduce the daughter to (S) because the daughter didnt feel comfortable meeting her until then.
Well they usually get along just fine but as they get closer to the wedding date the daughter keeps getting more and more distant. She gets mad at her dad if (S) picks her up from school or takes her to appts. She says its because she doesnt want to be friends with her in case her dad divorces (S) like he did her mom, which is totally understandable.
Right now they have 50/50 custody of the girl, but she says she will only live with her mom if he marries my friend (for the same reason)
What kind of advice should I give my friend, what should she do? Becoming a step mom of a 13yo is hard (im sure) but can it be easier?
Do not push a relationship on her. Let her father be the disciplinarian in the house.
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