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Age Difference

What age limit would you place on your 12 year old son's friends? Meaning, how old would his oldest friend be allowed to be?

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Asked by SeedsOfLove at 1:18 PM on Jul. 23, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • 15 .. depending on your sons maturity level and their maturity level.

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 1:24 PM on Jul. 23, 2009

  • I agree, 15 is about right. Kids are soooo different at every age. They arnt like adults where we are pretty much the same at 32 and 35. Between 12 and 15 is usually a BIG difference. Its the influence that matters. Another 12-year-old can lead him into alot of trouble, or a 9-year-old for that matter. Or on the other hand a 15-year-old can teach him how to play soccer real good or get him interested in good things. Case by case senerio.

    Answer by Hollytree at 3:26 PM on Jul. 23, 2009

  • Depends on the maturity on my child, I would say no older than 15. I would decide on a kid by kid basis.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 5:33 PM on Jul. 23, 2009

  • Depends on the kids and the influence they have on each other. My son is almost 8 and has friends of all ages (boys and girls). From the youngest who is 2 1/2 (little boy that lives next door) to the oldest who is 12 1/2 (older brother of his best friend). They all play together on the street.
    When I was 13 my best friend was 8. We got along great and our parents didn't care. Her mom told me when I was older that I had been a great influence on her. We are 32 and 27 now and still best friends and now our daughters are best friends. Her dd just turned 10 and my oldest turned 9 the next day...they are more like sisters. (yeah, she had a kid at 17 but that wasn't my influence...I was off at college at the time, actually I had just gotten engaged when I found out about the baby.)

    Answer by justanotherjen at 7:50 PM on Jul. 23, 2009

  • I am facing that problem right now. We were nieghbors to a family who's boys are 2 and 3 years older than my son. He is now 12 which makes one of the other boys going into High School. I feel like that is to old now! The age difference wasn't so huge a few years ago. I am hoping the friendship naturally dies out this year after school starts. Anyway what could a freshman and a 7th grader have in common?

    Answer by JDubs76 at 12:02 AM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • 15 is a lot older than 12......but I would probably go by grade and maturity level....and what the circumstances are, what they do together...etc. I would say not more than two grades difference. The kids change a lot at this time, and they may lose touch and then be friends again down the road....

    Answer by BJoan at 9:55 AM on Jul. 25, 2009

  • 13 maybe 14 not older

    Answer by maiahlynn at 10:15 PM on Jul. 27, 2009

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