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Why are 2 yr olds so frustrating when it come to potty training?

DD has been potty training for about 3 months and has got pee pee done and was pooping in the potty but now she starts pushing while standing and then says she's gotta go so i take her she sits and doesn't push. It's really annoying to say the least especially because she does it all day and then has poop accident or skid marks so you know the poop is there.


Asked by amommy2a2yrold at 11:04 AM on Jul. 24, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Well, Frued said that at this stage a child become either "anal retentive" (prone to hold things in and picky about what they give out and for whom) or "anal expulsive" (freely sharing and not so picky about with whom or when). While, I don't think Frued hits everything right on the head, this may be something to think about....perhaps your little one is not quite ready to give up a part of her. That is how it seems to a little one.
    If you are set on potty training now, do you have positive reenforcers that your child understands, anticipates, and looks forward to getting? I have a friend that used chocolate chips, one choc chip each time her kids used the toilet successfully. But, they didn't start training until a bit older. I also have heard that teaching is the best teacher. Perhaps get a wetting baby, outfit it with big girl undies, and have your LO teach it to use potty, give baby positive reenforcer. good luck

    Answer by BearlyXen at 11:25 AM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • Well, with all 4 of my kids, we found that they weren't truly ready until they were 3 to 3 1/2 yrs. old. We tried earlier and they never really got it, so we just stopped. When they are ready it only takes maybe 2 weeks at most to potty train them. If you start to early, then you are looking at months to try and get them to understand what they are supposed to do.

    Answer by Petie at 11:12 AM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • She understands she's 2 1/2 but she goes pee all day and know how to poop on the toilet just doesn't want to and that's what she says too.

    Answer by amommy2a2yrold at 11:26 AM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • Sounds like she's trying to get some control in her little mind :) What if you offer multiple toilet so she has a choice? You can poppy in mommy bahtroom or your bathroom or your potty chair, etc. Is there something else she can do to be a "big girl" Maybe hlep clean the bathroom? Give her a sponge and gloves and some water and let her wip down the toilet so it's all clean for when she needs to go poopy? Just trying to find ways for her to feel like she's making the choice or contriubting to the process.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:36 AM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • It is common for humans to learn things in circles... and to learn more advanced, difficult things before learning more basic, simple things.

    For little kids, learning pretty much anything, this means that they may be able to do something regularly for a while and then lose the ability for a period of time, only to learn it more thoroughly after a break. It also may mean that something that seems easier may be the last thing learned rather than the first.

    Few children learn to potty both at the same time, and which comes first is variable by child more than by the approach of the parents.

    As a mom of 9 self-taught potty-trained children how kids learn to use the potty and you'll get 9 answers.

    Answer by LindaClement at 12:18 PM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • Readiness means alot of things, one of those is emotionally ready. My lastest son knew at 2 yrs. old what the potty was for, the benefits of using the potty, knew that some day he would want to, but emotionally was not prepared to make that transition. It took him a year to build up the emotional maturity to be ready for that stage in his life. For us, we look at dirty diapers as nasty, annoying, and oh we can't wait to be done with them. For little ones this is a HUGE lifestyle change, and they need to be ready not only physically or mentally, but emotionally too. Maybe she just needs some time.

    I would never suggest that you don't try everything to help her, I'm just saying, don't stress over it because then she feels the stress. So try some rewards, ask HER what will help, do what you can, but in the end, don't stress it too much.

    Answer by Petie at 1:46 PM on Jul. 24, 2009