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my daughter???

is going to be in 5th grade next year and shes afraid she wont fit in.she doesnt make friends easily .she is shy.she goes to girl scouts(wich has gotten her know where)she played soccer.(now its become the travel team versus the known travel team)and she is going to do cheerleading.(my daughter made it big so i figured try it with her...)but im just not sure.she is in day camp now and i asked her if she was making any new friends she said no.what do i do so she isnt left out?i dont think she will be bullied but ....

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Asked by nana77500 at 1:47 PM on Jul. 24, 2009 in

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  • Im not sure theres anything YOU can do. But tell your daughter to try talking to other people about things she likes, maybe try to find something they have in common. She may just be shy.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:49 PM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • maybe research some things to build herself esteem. That could help. She may grow out of it. Check with a counselor.

    Answer by abshorn at 2:07 PM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • also give her started sentences. You may have to do some research but sometimes kids need a few standby opening lines. Studies show that kids do fine with one or 2 close friends. A few close friends is actually better than being popular. They get in less trouble and have less stress to fit in. Maybe call the scool and talk to some teachers. If they know a few girls who come from good families and think they would have someone in common they could give you some names and numbers. You could call the parents and explain that you are new to the school and would like your dd to meet a few people b4 school starts would they like to go to movies or six flags...then she can go into school with a few connections.

    Answer by ria7 at 3:56 PM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • In addition to ways to help her make friends, focus on yourself being there for her. A long day of school followed by various activities and day camp does not leave any time for her relationship with her mother. At her age, this is crucial. If she feels that you are caught up on everything she's going through, then she's more likely to mention experiences that she needs to sort out. She also is more likely to feel like you approve of her and you are on her side - this means she will accept your advice and your authority.

    When she gets the chance to casually discuss stuff with you, she can see things through your eyes and benefit from your adult perspective. This shapes her comprehension of the world and makes her stronger and more confident.

    Friends are ok to pass the time, but they are nothing to the close love of mother & daughter.

    Answer by waldorfmom at 7:31 PM on Jul. 24, 2009

  • host a back to school party. talk to her teacher to get some of the girl's in her class background info. & then call the nice families & introduce yourself & daughter. have your daughter talk to the school counseler about her shyness. i think maybe 1 or 2 extra activities out of school is enough... (maybe 3 is stressing her? idk? jmo) good luck.

    Answer by scooterpooter at 9:53 PM on Jul. 24, 2009

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