I am pregnant with my second daughter. I am excited about having her but its nothing like when I had my first. With my first I loved playing with her while in my belly. She would push out and I push her back or putting my hand in one spot until she kicked it. I felt like we had a really strong bond before she was even born. With this one I don't feel connected like I did with my first. I feel terrible for thinking that way. Has or does anyone feel this way too? I feel so awful about it but I can't change the way I feel.Answer Question
Answer by momofsaee at 1:53 PM on Jul. 25, 2009
Answer by jmpeskie at 1:55 PM on Jul. 25, 2009
I felt this way with my second and even more with my third.. but I think with my first I had the time to sit around and play with him , with my second I would still try and connect with her when she kicked but I was also very busy ( and tired ) with this one Im even more tired and busy so those bonding moments are even more spread out.. while my love for each is a different as they are- I love them all equally... The fact that you even question this shows what a good mama you are =)
Answer by RippledBegonias at 4:32 PM on Jul. 25, 2009
You are not a bad mother. I am also pregnant with my second daughter and I don't do all the things I did with my first. I read to my first in the womb and talked to her and all that stuff, with this one I don't do any of that stuff. I feel kind of guilty, but on the other hand I didn't have another child to focus on like I do now. I am waiting for her to born and I am pretty confident we will have a strong bond. Don't worry, I am sure once you see your new little girl you guys will connect.
Answer by lilysmom2607 at 4:38 PM on Jul. 25, 2009