In another's question, I explained our adoption journey and our thought processes during each progressive step that has gotten us to where we are today. We are closer to adoption every day, I believe, (thru foster care) and I am grateful for where I am. It's been a long road. As I was typing (4 x 940 characters, LOL!) I became curious at to what goes thru a pregnant woman's mind, and from the first "thought" of adoption, what steps DID you take, WHO did you call first? What avenues were eliminated? What avenue did you ultimately take? Why that way? I know many of your "endings" & I am asking about your "beginning steps." Thanks!
Answer by doodlebopfan at 11:10 AM on Aug. 5, 2009
Here's the link, and I am sorry that I took so much space in the other woman's question, which I didn't answer, because I didn't know the answer.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 3:05 PM on Jul. 28, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 3:29 PM on Jul. 28, 2009
I ask myself this question everyday. But, that's just hindsight. The first thought I had was that I loved my baby and I was going take responsibility for it. I actually put my hand on my tummy and promised him that. Then I went to the Planned Parenthood to discuss options. They totally tried to talk me into aborting, I wept the entire way home. But, I had talked them into giving me a referral to an agency. I thought that adoption was still conducted like the old days in that they wouldn't let me see my baby and whisk it away and I'd never see it again. (It didn't occur to me at the time that they had absolutely no right to treat my any differently than any other new mom). When my SW told me about open adoption, which was really semi-open, told me that I could chose the parents and write to him so that he'd know I hadn't forgotten him and still loved him, that sounded really good to me.
Answer by onethentwins at 4:18 PM on Jul. 28, 2009
Cont.. I flew to Hawaii to tell the father and discuss options with him, but it was at that moment that I decided that I wasn't going to let him have a say and that I was going to chose adoption. He said he was also interested in corresponding with the parents but when I came back to CA he disappeared off the planet. I feel so sad for him and for Danny because of that. They are so alike I think they could have a great relationship. It's my dearest wish that they reunite one day.
I thought about parenting, but I thought I would be miserable being a poor single mom back in England where I really didn't want to be. (I had no idea how miserable it is to be separated from my baby because the birth mothers that had come before me weren't talking)
Once I'd made that decision I never once thought about changing my mind.
Answer by onethentwins at 4:24 PM on Jul. 28, 2009
Answer by doodlebopfan at 6:56 PM on Jul. 28, 2009
Answer by bellacocco at 12:47 AM on Jul. 29, 2009
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Answer by stillamom1213 at 1:34 AM on Jul. 29, 2009
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