I've worked in a restaurant as a waitress for many years and occasionally a family will come in with a disabled member. I tend to talk directly to the disabled person rather than 'over' him or her because I think it's rude to say "and what will he have?" unless directed otherwise. Anyway, one day a family came in with a boy who was obviously very disabled--I don't know the name for what he had, but in a wheelchair with a high neck, mouth twisted, eyes half open, etc. When I took the food order, I looked at him and said "And for you?" (It seemed pretty obvious that he couldn't talk, but like I said, I think it's rude to talk over him) and his mother gave me the biggest attitude saying: "Can't you tell he can't talk or eat?" (More was said, but I'm summing it up)
So my question is, if you were in a restaurant with a disabled family member would you prefer your server talk directly to the disabled person or is it strange?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:42 PM on Jul. 28, 2009 in Kids' Health
Answer by paige8608 at 9:48 PM on Jul. 28, 2009
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Answer by justgrape723 at 9:00 AM on Jul. 29, 2009
I think you are doing the right thing in addressing the disabled person first. Kudos to you for remembering to respect every person you wait on. What may have happened with the mom is that she was feeling the sting that a mother feels when she knows that he can not answer and other kids his age can. There is really no way for you to know this in advance and I'm sure deep down she knows that.
Answer by pixie_stix at 1:29 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
Answer by incarnita at 9:59 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
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