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i need advice asappp!!!

me and my dh have diceded to get divorced...well for about another month or so i am going to be staying with him and his mom...well he keeps telling me that i cant go out or anything and that i dont need to be talking to other people or anything cuz hes not ready he still needs to go to the gym...well thats his problem isnt it..what should i do

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:15 AM on Jul. 29, 2009 in Relationships

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  • hey, one get the heck out of there, if you guys arnt going to be together he forsure cant tell you what to do.. do whatever you want, just make sure the money is in your court cause he will take it and run, men are so stupid..
    ArlieBeeMee

    Answer by ArlieBeeMee at 10:20 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • where are the kids? are they ours? or ya'lls? dont let him run over you if ya'll are done, take charge i say.. whats he going to do DIVORCE ya????
    ArlieBeeMee

    Answer by ArlieBeeMee at 10:21 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • What does the going to the gym have to do with you talking to anyone.

    This is he's problem you two are seperated. Out of respect for you and your child/ren I would not run out and fine someone new right away rebounds never workout AT ALL...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:22 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • You're getting a divorce, right? Therefore you're on the market again, you can talk to whomever you please. Also, he's already decided he doesn't want to be with you, so why does he care where you are or what you're doing?
    Mick86Sara

    Answer by Mick86Sara at 10:31 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • sounds like he is pretty controlling
    is this one of the reasons you two are spliting?

    move out and on as soon as you can
    boredmom44

    Answer by boredmom44 at 10:39 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • Why are you still living with his Mom if you have already decided to get divorced?
    I know it sucks, but time to "put on your Mommy pants" and find a place of your own. Are their kids involved? You didn't mention any... And I am confused about what going to the gym has to do with anything... Could you clarify a little??
    say_tay

    Answer by say_tay at 10:59 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • i could see that if u have no choice but to stay with his mom you should be low key about it while ur there. Find somewhere else to stay as soon as u can and then do what u want to. He has no right to tell u what to do, but his mom may not be very impressed if she sees u try to talk to other ppl while ur still in her house - and you may really need her one day.
    ranedare

    Answer by ranedare at 11:01 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • to keep peace you can wait that month or you can go out yet be discreet

    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:29 AM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • i'm a bit traditional and i think if your still married you shouldn't be dating anyone(if you mena talking as dating if not then talking is ok just don't get the question if it's just really talking) although i would agree with you that his getting to the gym is his problem. if you have kids involved i would set the example by keeping the peace through a divorce.
    melody77

    Answer by melody77 at 12:22 PM on Jul. 29, 2009

  • take your child with you and tell him that yall are no longer an item and that he has no control...you might live under his roof, but he doesn't have control just because of the children (if they are his). he needs to get use to doing things on his own here is his chance.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:41 PM on Jul. 29, 2009

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