My DH is very controlling! He wants to tell me what to do, when to do it and how to do it. He never wants to hear any questions. I just have to do as he says. I am not good at being told what to do. To me, its not what you say, but HOW you say it. And when I dont do what he says, he says that I am not submissive and he can not be with a woman who is not submissive to him. He says thats what the bible says. For example, last night, after he came home from work, I wanted to go pick up some feminine items from walmart, which is only a block away. And he said NO, you can go tomorrow with the kids. Why do I have to drag my 9 month old twins just to go pick up a few things? Its so stressful shopping with my babies and I try to avoid it at all costs. And of course I grabbed my keys and told him that I would be right back.
Then he said if I leave, we are getting a divorce! WTF. WHy the mention of divorce?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:10 PM on Jul. 29, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by Anonymous at 1:23 PM on Jul. 29, 2009
O honey I really dont see it working for you because it is not right for him to control you that way. Relationships are based on communication and it is a 50/50 thing. He has no right to in total control and that's not fair to you because you have feelings and if you want to do something you should be able to do it without his approval.( Like go to the store). I dont know how you are doing it because NO body controls me. Me and my SO have our differences but we work through them together and compromise. You really need to tell him how you feel and get some counselling and if that don't work than its up to you where to go from there. Just remember that you are a person to and you have the right to speak up and be independent ( not somebody's slave). Good luck hon
Answer by Anonymous at 1:24 PM on Jul. 29, 2009
Answer by boredmom44 at 1:26 PM on Jul. 29, 2009
This is exactly why I dont want to get married. I dont want anything to change.
Answer by Anonymous at 1:27 PM on Jul. 29, 2009