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I sometimes feel like I am unattractive anymore or fat... because I'm still carrying baby weight from having my daughter 4 months ago.... I feel really lonely and depressed sometimes because I feel like my husband never wants to be home and/or spend time with me.... I've been rejected a couple times whe I tried to initiate sex.... and he doesn't come on to me as much as I would like... or at least enough to make me feel attractive. I'm only 26... I'm 5'9 and 157lbs... so I know I'm not completely disgusting.... I'm going to the gym as much as possible (between breastfeeding my baby, which is another reason why I feel more functional than sexual)... what can I do to livin up our relationship and get him to notice me. (I tried wearing sexy lingere and waiting for him to come home, but he took forever and his parents dropped by unexpectantly right after he got home so that didn't work). It's not even the sex... i miss himAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:17 PM on Jul. 29, 2009 in Relationships
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Answer by looovemybabies at 10:33 PM on Jul. 29, 2009
Talk to him about it. He is a man and won't get hints you need to tell him how you are feeling. Listen to how he is feeling too. You are a mother now and that might be a bit scary to him. My husband was freaked out about sex after our son was born. He watched my son come out and nearly passed out. He was so worried I was not healed and basically avoided me to avoid sex. I finally asked him what was wrong. He said he was freaked out and didn't want to hurt me. I said I am fine and he better get in bed now or he would get hurt.lol We had sex it was fun. You have to remind him and yourself you are still a sexy woman and not just a milk machine and mommy. Have some fun and again talk to him.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:49 PM on Jul. 29, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:54 PM on Jul. 29, 2009