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Help! In love with more than 1!

I love my dh, but I've been in an emotional relationship with another man for almost 6 years....its completely emotional. We are both married with kids and could possibly want more, but we dont want to lose our families?? Can we continue like this?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:02 PM on Jun. 22, 2008 in Relationships

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  • No No No you cannot.
    Imagine for one moment your children. How will they feel when they learn of this.
    What about your husband? What will he do? Can you imagine how damaging this behavior is to him? What if he did it to you? What if you learned that he was having an emotional affair with another woman? (Assuming you weren't)

    What you are doing is wrong on so many levels and very very selfish. Ask yourself- are you really in love with "Him" or the rush the "affair" gives you. If you are lacking emotionally from your DH you need to TELL HIM so he has the chance to step up.
    Sometimes women engage in affairs because it makes them feel important or desireable. They need the validation from an "outside" source. This is very detrimental in the long run to not only yourself, but your family.

    Stop. You need to stop. Think about all you have to lose and who all you are hurting right now.

    Women like you scare the rest of us.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:10 PM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • Emotional cheating is still cheating. It doesn't need to cross into sex to be a betrayal of your marriage.

    Answer by halfpint_ny at 9:15 PM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • the grass is always green on the other side of the fence. You don't know what you've got til its gone etc. That is what these are made for to learn from others mistakes.If you cheat and get caught you loose if you don't cheat and tell you loose. Keep it as friends alot of friends become more than only to find out it time both loose their spouses in later life and will reconnect then and only then will it be ok.

    Answer by Theoneandonly at 9:20 PM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • sorry but it's not fair to your present husband, kids, the other guy, and his kids.

    Answer by Ambreelulu at 10:12 PM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • I agree w the pp! Good luck.

    Answer by Mimomof3boys at 10:14 PM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • Before you can start this relationship you have to completely end the one you are in... if not then you are pretty much dooming the relationship with this guy. If he loves you so much and you love him so much, then you both should go about it the right way and divorce first... you owe your family that much respect. If he loves you, he will wait until you are both "free".

    Answer by msp12r at 10:19 PM on Jun. 22, 2008

  • I completely disagree with the prior post! You made a committment to your DH and to your children. Divorce is devastating to all parties involved.

    Answer by jacobsmom707 at 12:31 AM on Jun. 23, 2008

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