How do I get over the pain of missing the baby I placed for adoption a year ago?

Can you perhaps write her a letter and send it through the adoption agency? It is not the same as seeing her but maybe it would make you feel a little better? You would know then that she would know.

It might not mean much but you should be so proud of yourself for making such an unselfish decision. My heart goes out to you. Like the previous post said write a letter to the adoption agency and explain the situation. GL and just remember you did what was best for her.

A letter thru the agency would be a great idea, as well as keeping a journal of your own thoughts & feelings. There may come a time where she'll want to know more details and your love & feelings are important now, as well as in the future. I don't think there's a way to erase the feelings of loss you have. Could you contact the agency about updates and pics, since you have only received one? Perhaps see if a visit is possible?

A more realistic hope is that you find ways to deal with your loss. Rarely is it possible to "get over" the loss of a child to adoption. However, you can find ways to heal and handle it better. Time alone will probably not ease your sadness, you may need to actively work towards healing. Support groups and skilled adoption therapists CAN help a great deal as well.

Most of the suggestions others made are good ones. However, if you are like most birth moms relinquishing your child may not be something you feel proud of. I don't know your situation enough to know if it was a selfless decision, one made freely, or even if you had enough honest information to have made an informed choice. I hesitate to make the usual presumptions that might not fit your situation.