I just had a baby in February, and I'm pregnant again. My baby is only 5 months old and I'm 6 weeks pregnant again. My husband would not let me get on birth control and now I'm in a situation that I am not ready to be in. I'm already exhausted and on the verge of losing my mind from being pregnant and not sleeping because I'm up all night and day with my child. I'm not ready for this and I don't know what to do. My husband even said that he wasn't going to get up at night to help when the next baby is born (due a month after my child turns 1 year). I've been really upset and crying because I just lost 60 lbs after I had my baby, and now I'm going to gain all that weight back, not to mention I was never ok with being pregnant in the first place... my mother lives 500 miles away from me and his mother makes it impossible for either of his other to to respect authority. I can't do this on my own, and idk what to do...
Asked by Anonymous at 3:18 PM on Jul. 30, 2009 in Health
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Answer by rkoloms at 5:54 PM on Jul. 30, 2009
"Your hubby sounds like a controlling douche, you need to put your foot down, either in his ass or out the door"
"Take your baby and go live with your mother. This man does not deserve any of you.
Keep this handy, I suspect that you may need it: The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233)"
Both of these pretty much sum it all up!!!
He wouldn't let you go on BC... your body, your choice... he can go f*%k his fist!!!!
Answer by Anonymous at 9:28 PM on Jul. 30, 2009
Been there, done that and I was 19. I really relate to your situation.
No man should be telling you when you can and can not take birth control. Babies should be a mutual decision. No relationship built on control, coercion, and emotional manipulation can survive. Partners are supposed to want to see one another happy and fulfilled not controlled and emotionally exhausted. Deep down, I believe that you already know the answer to your own question. You must find the strength to leave this man. He is dead weight. Imagine how free you would feel without him. Imagine this relationship in 10 years in 20 years. Does what you see satisfy you?
Once you do this, consider adoption for this second baby if he or she is really too much for you. Every child deserves to be wanted and loved. If you ever want to talk about it more, feel free to message me.
Answer by pixie_stix at 1:51 AM on Jul. 31, 2009