How would you feel if your FIL drinks in front of your kids?

I wouldn't allow it. Especially if he's babysitting. You don't want him inhibited; what if something happens and he needs to take the kids to the ER? He wouldn't be able to drive.

Depends how much he's drinking... If he's sipping on 1 glass of whine no I would have no issue with that and think you're over reacting. I grew up watching adults drink my entire life no one was ever belligerent in front of me and it had no impact on my life, it never phased me. However if you're talking an entire bottle of whine then thats a different story. People can have 1 glass of whine and still drive, legally at that, children to the hospital.

If he is the one who is supposed to be watching the kids I would not like it. If he were just over the house for a visit or something then I'd say that it's no big deal. If he won't stop drinking while he's the responsible party for your children then find another care giver.

Drinking while 'on the job' is wrong, but drinking 'in front of the kids' isn't terrible. Therefore, if he's watching the kids: NO. If they're just visiting: YES.

a glass of wine is not enough to get cps called on oyu. if he was rolling on the floor drunk out of his mond then yes i would worry. CPS knows the difference between having a glass of wine and being drunk

No, if it's just one glass of wine, it wouldn't bother me. My parents watch our kids every once in a while in the evening and they both drink a little. I've never even thought about it. Then again, they drank after work when I was growing up too. There were never any problems. However, if your personal convictions are that you don't want him drinking in front of the children, he should respect that. They are your kids after all!

This is fun now. If he can hold his liquor fine. If he's going to act the fool, no.

Okay well I guess it depends on how you view alcohol. In my home, we dont drink. Its not that we think its wrong or anything, we just typically dont like the taste and we werent raised around it. Its kinda foreign to us. So therefore its likely to bother me more than somone who is more familiar with it. Also remember that he is basically working for you. When you go to work, are you allowed to drink? I hope not. I would think that his job would have the same rules or even MORE rules because hes watching your kids. Its simply not appropriate, but if he is doing you a favor, its likely that you wont be able to say anything or tell him what to do. Its his home and his life but you do have the option of placing your kids elsewhere. A lot of times many moms end up having their mother in law, mothers, or grandmothers watching their kids to save on daycare, then get mad at how they do it. If he hasnt heeded your request now, he wont.

If he is drinking responsibly, I wouldn't have any problem with it. If he was getting fallen down drunk, I would have a problem with it. CPS will not take your kids because someone is having a glass of wine in front of them. The kids probably don't even know that he is drinking wine. Ease up, mom. If he is watching the kids in his home then there really isn't much you can say other than you prefer that he waits until the kids are gone or to drink responsibly. Sorry.

honestly, thats HIS life. why should he have to adjust it differently for YOUR kids?