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Do you know of any help that I can get for myself and my future child?

The only way that I can get any state help is if I file child support, the thing is the father is a rapist and will come after me if I do file. I can not support the child on my own and I am scared and I was wondering if anyone knew of places or numbers that I could call to get some of the help that I would need. I am already trying to o hard and I want to give this child the best and I am just running a little short of what I need.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:05 PM on Jul. 30, 2009 in Relationships

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  • i think you don't have to give the name of the father to get help.
    stephania01

    Answer by stephania01 at 10:10 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • Go to the CPS or your division of family services. They can help you get a restraining order and they can also help you with insurance, lodging, et. Good luck.
    ajguinn

    Answer by ajguinn at 10:11 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • That is true. Just don't put him on the birth certificate when the kid is born.
    ajguinn

    Answer by ajguinn at 10:12 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • Go to the cops if you were raped, dude! Theyll help you!
    evilive

    Answer by evilive at 10:16 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • unfortunately they will need the fathers name if you apply for any type of assistance at all...if you are in fear of him you need to talk to someone! you cant let this go! it wont get any better if you do
    blueeyedgrl2377

    Answer by blueeyedgrl2377 at 10:21 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • In Pennsylvania they ask you if you are scared for your or your kids safety when you go for benefits. They will not go after them if there is a safety issue. Good luck mama!
    jackiec7707

    Answer by jackiec7707 at 10:23 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • man...sounds like state assistance where i live sucks...my husband (we split for a year) was giving me money every week so i didnt want to release his name because he was doing nothing wrong but they were going to deny me if i didnt...so based on what your saying jackie...every state must be different.
    blueeyedgrl2377

    Answer by blueeyedgrl2377 at 10:26 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • i think you should contact social services to see what your options are and tanif and food stamps would help you too
    marysmama09

    Answer by marysmama09 at 11:08 PM on Jul. 30, 2009

  • say you don't know who the father is
    mirit.rose

    Answer by mirit.rose at 12:45 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • www.cradle.org
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:25 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

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