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abusive bf

whats the first sign to tell if ur bf woulld hit u? my bf twisted my wrist n almost broke it if he can do that do u think he can do worse?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:55 AM on Jul. 31, 2009 in Relationships

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  • leave him
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:55 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Yeah, that would definitely qualify as a sign. Even verbal abuse is a sign that it could turn physical.
    HisMommySince07

    Answer by HisMommySince07 at 10:57 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • yes he will
    it is about control
    he may have to use more force when he feels he needs to to have control
    call your local abuse center, without him knowing!!!
    as you get stronger as you realize this is abuse and you have to get out
    he will use more force
    have a plan to leave
    but leaving is VERY dangerous with an abusive partner
    your local abuse center will help you with this

    i am speaking from my past ex, he was abusive and it took courage to leave, but it was the obsolute best thing i ever did for myself

    leave him, but have a plan and support from abuse center

    when it is hard, think about how your life will be in a year from now

    you need to leave an abusive relationship
    boredmom44

    Answer by boredmom44 at 10:59 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • IF HE HAS A VIOLENT TEMPER HE WILL HIT OR DO WORSE. MY HUSBAND WAS ONLY THREATENING WHEN HE DRANK AND HAD BEEN ANGRY. I THOUGHT HE WOULD NEVER HIT ME JUST FULL OF THREATS. BUT ON MOTHER'S DAY HE PULLED A LOADED GUN ON ME AFTER I CAME HOME FROM WORK AND I DIDN'T THINK HE WAS CAPABLE OF THAT. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE A VIOLENT MAN.
    UNLUCKYATLOVE

    Answer by UNLUCKYATLOVE at 11:09 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • yes it will escalate from there
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:19 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Yes, if he put his hands on you in anger now and almost broke your wrist, it can (and probably will) get worse.
    If you want to stay with him I would advise he take anger management, as well as couples counseling-- hopefully that would help (not a guarantee though).
    If it were me, and my boyfriend did that to me- I would leave and not look back.
    Whatever you decide- - I wish you luck.
    MizLee

    Answer by MizLee at 11:44 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • yes that telling you as awomen we don,t deserve that from anyman so leave him couse you are worth that and more so please take what i say and do that i know
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:56 AM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • been there done that.......it will get worse and worse. Trust me when I say get rid of him yesterday !! next time you may not be so lucky. I would also suggest counseling for you with someone who understand abusive relationships. Unfortunately most women who have been abused have very low self esteem and end up going back to their abuser. That is why you need to talk to someone who understands the components of an abusive relationship. Good luck and get out now!!!It could be a matter of life and death.....your life

    justgrape723

    Answer by justgrape723 at 12:08 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • You may be in an abusive relationship if he:
    Is jealous or possessive toward you.
    (Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions & Love Addiction.)
    Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
    Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts & friendships.
    Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.
    Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
    Abuses drugs or alcohol.
    Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.)
    Blames you when he or she mistreats you.
    Has a history of bad relationships.
    Your family & friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
    You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do
    justgrape723

    Answer by justgrape723 at 12:15 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Does the person you love...
    • constantly keep track of your time?

    • act jealous & possessive?

    • accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?

    • discourage your relationships with friends & family?

    • prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school?

    • constantly criticize or belittle you?

    • control all finances & force you to account for what you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting excepted.)

    • humiliate you in front of others? (Including "jokes" at your expense.)

    • destroy or take your personal property or sentimental items?

    • have affairs?

    • threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten to use a weapon?

    • push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children?

    • force you to have sex aga
    justgrape723

    Answer by justgrape723 at 12:17 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

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