Recently there has been a need to tell birthmoms they are not brave, not selflless,they aren't responsible by surrendering their child.Is their a belief that birthmothers drop their children to not disturb their easy life?Why bash a birthmother?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:58 AM on Jul. 31, 2009 in Adoption
Wow, I didn't know BM's were being bashed. I think the opposite. I think they are brave, selfless and are being responsible. I'm sure that is the hardest thing to do. They are thinking about their children first. Better than aborting.
Answer by Christine0813 at 11:02 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:16 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
Answer by ggiovanni at 11:27 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
Answer by mom2twobabes at 11:29 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 11:31 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:32 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
The reason we birth moms don't like to be told we were being selfless, brave and courageous is two part. Firstly, it's rarely true. Many of us were bullied into by our parents, the fathers parents, clergy, social workers etc. Many of us wish we'd been stronger and braver and refused to give up our children when we didn't really want to. We feel that if we'd been brave then we would have stuck up for our rights and demanded to keep our children.
Secondly, because by telling a woman in crisis pregnancy that the brave and selfless thing to do is give her baby up to a better, wealthier, older couple is a tactic we know the adoption industry use to make her feel that raising her own baby is selfish so that they can make money from adopting out her baby.
Answer by onethentwins at 11:35 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 11:41 AM on Jul. 31, 2009
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Answer by PortAngeles1969 at 12:09 PM on Jul. 31, 2009