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What do you consider a bad mom?

Aside from the obvious, I mean. Drugs, alcoholism, child abuse, neglect...
But what else makes a mom a 'bad' mom?

 
chavela_carlita

Asked by chavela_carlita at 8:34 PM on Jul. 31, 2009 in Just for Fun

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Answers (14)
  • Moms who live for their kids above all and anything else. You have a life other than being someone's mom - what are you going to do when the kid leaves and makes their own life that does not center around their parents?

    I have a playgroup "friend" whose "whole life is her kids". She smothers those kids. They cannot shit in peace without Mamma being there to supervise the whole thing. The oldest almost didn't get to go to 1st grade b/c mom can't handle being away from kid alllllll day. She is seriously considering homeschooling not because we are in shit district - we are actually in a fab district - to combat her lonliness for her child allllllll day.

    The only way those kids have a chance to lead a normal life and poop like the rest of the world is to get away ASAP and go into therapy.

    She thinks she is the greatest, most thoughtful MOTY. SHe is handicapping those kids until they are adults, minimum. She SUCKS.
    LiliM

    Answer by LiliM at 11:39 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Anyone who doesn't put her child first - no matter what.
    allans_girl

    Answer by allans_girl at 8:36 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • moms who do drugs can be perfectly wonderful moms.
    staciandababy

    Answer by staciandababy at 8:38 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Someone who views their child as an object instead of a human being.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:38 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • The mom or dad that has not moved out of the " me " stage... whenever a person can put their own needs and wants before their child's, when a parent can not do a self-sacrifice of their time and emotions then I would consider that behavior to bea "bad" parent... but more a person that should not be a parent....
    BlessingsBegin

    Answer by BlessingsBegin at 8:40 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • I think a bad mom is one who flat out does not take care of her child's needs.
    Fallaya

    Answer by Fallaya at 8:42 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Mothers who treat their children as pets, IE the ones who train their kids to be cute little robots, squashing their individuality and punishing them every time they try to be CHILDREN.

    IE, a few people I know personally.

    Oh, and moms who treat their kids as trophies, like "Oh, lookie boys, I HAD SEX!"
    caitxrawks

    Answer by caitxrawks at 8:44 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Oh, and a mom who completely disregards anyone else's advice. She does what she wants because she wants to do it and she's not going to listen to anyone else no matter what, because then she would have to admit that she wasn't right to begin with. She'll do whatever she wants with her kids even if it ends up harming them.

    IE, again, a few people I know personally.
    caitxrawks

    Answer by caitxrawks at 8:46 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • um stacie?? mothers who use drugs CANNOT be perfectly wonderful mothers!!! What kind of example does that set for your children? That it is ok to break the law? I also think that a bad mom is one who neglects abuses or has a drug or alcohol dependency, or a mom who does not put her children as her #1 priority. Carelessness can also make a woman a bad mom. JMO
    KaireasMommy

    Answer by KaireasMommy at 8:47 PM on Jul. 31, 2009

  • Moms who put there SO/DH before there kids.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 8:47 PM on Jul. 31, 2009