We've been hearing/talking about the tactics that agencies have used or are using in order to continue placing babies for adoption. Whether it's advertising, initial consultations, on-site facilities housing emoms until delivery, counseling, etc. instead of telling an expectant woman who is considering or has decided on placing her child for adoption, what words would you think you would hear or would like to hear in place of "brave, selfless, or responsible?"
In the "reformed" agency, what would be considered encouraging or would encouraging be allowed? What would be considered supportive or would supporting be allowed?
In order to make changes, we have to be specific on what changes we would like to see. We can't talk about what they CAN'T SAY or DO, only what they CAN SAY or DO.
When stating the "rules", speak in the "positive".
An example: Rule 1-Offer coffee.
A negative example: Rule 1-Don't offer tea.
Birth mother needs to be changed to "natural mother" because birth mother means "breeder". The wording was changed because to title the mother the "natural mother" implied that the adoptive parents were "unnatural" and so was adoption. Adoption for pregnant mothers needs to be a last resort. The funding going towards profit adoption agencies needs to be taken and given to programs that are designed to help mothers get on their feet so they can raise their child. Adoption needs to stop associating itself with words like "selfless, brave, and responsible". Adoption is a choice and simply that.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 8:07 PM on Aug. 1, 2009
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Also note the website where this "manual" for adoption agency trainees has been taken down. I wonder why?
Answer by legalmommy101 at 9:01 PM on Aug. 1, 2009
Answer by randi1978 at 9:13 PM on Aug. 1, 2009
Answer by randi1978 at 9:17 PM on Aug. 1, 2009
"But instead of the prefixes before "mother"....why can't we just be called what we are: MOTHERS?"
I agree with everything you just said. The problem stems from a legal and medical perspective. They like to show the difference between the two. Sometimes there are even three different kinds of parents like biological, legal and presumed. Sounds like Australia's system is much better than ours.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 9:25 PM on Aug. 1, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 1:47 AM on Aug. 2, 2009