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My bffs dd is 4 and half.. her mom and dad are not toghter and latley she has been doing some really odd (to me anyways) behaviors when she gets back from her dads... For example if my 2 yr old son goes up to give her a hug she will rub on him (with her lower body) I remove him and tell her not ok, but she will also stand over the sprinkler with her legs spread so the water goes into her crotch area.. and her mother has cuaght her mastrubating on the side of her bed.. It only happens when she comes back from visiting her dad and lasts about a 3-5 days (she sees him every other weekend) I think this is signs of sexual abuse or at least something going on but her mom just thinks it is normal behavoir and "self exploration" and that she will out grow it I m just curiuos to see what others think.. btw i posted this anon only cuz we have mutual freinds on CM and i dont want to make a huge scene about it or emabarass her
Asked by Anonymous at 9:12 PM on Aug. 1, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)
I would definitely encourage your friend to talk to her child's Dr. While some of the behavior is normal for children of that age. The concerning thing is that is only happens after a visit to Dad's and then stops after a few days. This does not necessarily mean that she is being abused but could mean she is seeing/being exposed to inappropriate situations. I would also encourage that your friend look into books/ videos that go over inappropriate touch and read/watch them with her daughter. 4yo is old enough to know about those kinds of things. The Dr will have resources if things are not totally what would be normal for the girls age. She might also want to address the issue with the Dad if they are on good terms. Though I would advise talking to the Dr first just to be sure. It doesn't help to blow something up into a big deal until you can get all the information. Dad might have some insight into the behavior.
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