ever since my son was born 8 months ago, I have NO interest in sex with my husband. It's nothing he does or says-it's not his fault at all. Ever since my son was born, I feel SO unsexy and disgusting, it's crazy. I still have a lot of tummy flab and red stretch marks all over my belly and thighs. I have been trying to lose some weight and it's not working.
Also, sex HURTS. Even after all this time! I had an episiotomy during childbirth and at my six-week check-up, it wasn't totally healed yet so my OBGYN sealed it with silver nitrate, which hurt-badly. Ever since, intercourse can be painful.
I don't want my husband to think it's anything to do with him. He is great and a terrific husband and father. We have an open and honest relationship, and I have told him my lack of libido is due to my own physical insecurities. I hope he believes me. 8 mo later I still look like I just had my son yesterday. Help!!!!!
Asked by Anonymous at 11:42 PM on Aug. 1, 2009 in Pregnancy
Answer by Frogbaby83 at 11:46 PM on Aug. 1, 2009
first, if your experiencing pain with sex, I would make an apt with your OB- secondly I hope your DH understands, but remember he loves you very much, and he doesn't care about your body, he loves you for your mind, and who you are as a person. as you get older your body naturally sags, and had stretch marks, and liver spots and a NUMBER of other things NO ONE likes, or likes to talk about, but people are married and happily having sex for YEARS after looks fade. I would talk to ob about maybe getting on a post par- med. Maybe the feelings you have could be the baby blues, just not as severe as you might think it would be. Good luck, and I am sorry your feeling so down on yourself. Your beautiful, and your husband thinks so too! I'm sure of it.
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