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my sister in law is living with us rigfht now and im about to clean my house...

and she has been here a week and a half and has not cleaned anything which is fine im here all the time but we're having people over tonight and i would like some help cleaning for a chacge and im no bodys maid. is it rude to ask her to wash the dishes tonight?? THATS all? im going to clean everything else but yeah... im kind of annoyed she hasnt cleaned anything since shes been here, i clean her bathroom for her and wash her dishes etc...

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MomNbabyGirl009

Asked by MomNbabyGirl009 at 7:38 PM on Aug. 2, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Wow a whole week and a half. Just ask her. Say, hey, I'm going to clean...can you do the dishes please?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:40 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • That's not rude at all.
    allans_girl

    Answer by allans_girl at 7:40 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • ummm, no, it isn't rude. She is a grown woman, i'm assuming. She can pitch in && help you clean, especially her mess, whether you are there all day or not. Hopefully, she is paying you some type of rent or helping with some bills too.
    HisMommySince07

    Answer by HisMommySince07 at 7:40 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • absolutly she should help out..im assuming shes not paying you rent? well yes id ask her to wash the dishes..and if she gives you lip then you'll probably have to go into the whole "if you live here you need to help out.." speech. gl momma
    naturepeace

    Answer by naturepeace at 7:41 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • yes just say it in a nice way exactly how you explained it like hey were having people over tonight would you mind helping me tidy up around the house id really appreciate it
    something like that
    jendramis

    Answer by jendramis at 7:41 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • no she is paying a little bit of rent.. a little less than half. she has her own room and bathroom that she uses....
    MomNbabyGirl009

    Answer by MomNbabyGirl009 at 7:42 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • Yeah ask for some help! be polite at first and if she doesnt comply then it time to bring out the bitch whip
    kirsty_mcgrail

    Answer by kirsty_mcgrail at 7:43 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • i would just tell her if she wants to stay here she need to clean, so get to movin
    Dom123123

    Answer by Dom123123 at 7:44 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • As an adult living with you, not just a guest, then she should be contributing to the household expense and chores. You can make a list and ask her which she would like to take over, this gives her a choice and saves her face- so she feels in control of her activities. I think that I wouldn't ask her to wash dishes tonight. But I probably would tell her what needs to be done tonight and, as above, ask her if she would help out by taking over some of the tasks.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 7:45 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

  • If she is a guest, it isn't RIGHT for you to EXPECT her to help.

    If she is living there temporarily, you have every RIGHT to EXPECT her to help keep the home clean.

    It's sad she hasn't offered by now... Wow, is that entitlement or what?
    timelessglass

    Answer by timelessglass at 7:46 PM on Aug. 2, 2009

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