“When will I feel better?” “Is it normal to feel so sad?” “Why am I crying all the time?"
These kinds of questions pop up on a regular basis in the questions at Cafemom. And no, it is not planned for the cynics who might think that. These questions indicate to me that most expectant moms do not understand what to expect before they place children for adoption. If pregnant women were honestly given information about what to expect, they would still experience some feelings of loss and pain. But, I doubt so many birth moms would feel utterly stunned at the depth of their feelings and how long they last.
Skeptics will say, “Too bad, they should have educated themselves.” However, the only counseling or education that many pregnant women receive is through an adoption agency. Is it right to continue to allow most adoption agencies to tell pregnant women things that simply are untrue?
You may be right, but I also tend to think there is aboslutely no way to be completely prepared for not having your child. Even parents whose children are suffering from a terminal illness, who have had months to come to terms with their death, will still be stunned and devastated when the inevitable happens. And in a way, adoption is like that, because you face perhaps never ever seeing your child again. The period after adoption is a grieving process, and you just can't fully prepare yourself for that.
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