For most of us it is a simple case of not being able to relate. The life experiences of families with special needs children are very different than those of families with typically developing children and there is little, if anything, to be had in common. Friends gradually drift away b/c their babies are reaching milestones & moving on, while your child with special needs may still be struggling with the basics. Then there are the myriad doctor appts., therapy appts., specialists appts., testing, hospitalizations, etc. that leave little time for much else. Nobody will babysit your child with special needs, or if they will, it's not for long, so forget going out anywhere alone. Families don't know how to relate to the child w/special needs, so they tend to ignore the child, which causes hurt feelings & a drifting away. Those of us who can, work extra hours to cover the costs of equipment, co-pays, meds, therapy, & daily needs.
at 7:34 PM on Aug. 3, 2009