i was raised catholic, and today out of nowhere i started to think about the strict restrictions in the religion, like no birth control, no divorce etc. so i have a question to the people who follow these rigorous parts of the religion. if you were at a point where you could not afford any more children would you go w/b.c. or would you stop having sex?
if your s/o were to commit a severe crime and get sentenced to jail (child molesting, murder these types of things), would you stick it out or divorce?
this is not meant to be a debate i'm just curious
Answer by Anonymous at 11:22 PM on Aug. 4, 2009
Answer by Nathskitten at 11:26 PM on Aug. 4, 2009
Answer by vabchmommy at 11:37 PM on Aug. 4, 2009
Since the BC was already answered I'll go for the second. In the Catholic Church you can Divorced just not remarried and partake in the sacraments. Until you get an annulment. The examples you gave are good reasons for annulment. Our reasons come from Christ himself. the only time you can separate is the case of abuse or lewd conduct. The problem these days are that people are divorcing for very stupid reasons instead of working things out. The do what makes me happy. Relativism. My DH and I have a friend who Divorced his wife for a very good reason. She was Cheating on him to get her drugs. He had to make a choice her or the welfare of the Kids. He choose the kids. He has them and or raising them. Not even thinking about dating or finding anyone else. As he said when and if the time comes he will get an annulment. Right now no. He can partake in all the sacraments, and helps out at the Church. He's very happy now.
Answer by Anonymous at 8:39 AM on Aug. 5, 2009
Answer by Littlebit722 at 10:16 AM on Aug. 5, 2009
Answer by fireangel0310 at 4:39 PM on Aug. 5, 2009
As others have pointed out, Natural Family Planning is a valid option if there are just reasons that a couple needs to space out their children. It is effective and helps the couple communicate about sex, intimacy, goals which often brings the couple closer together.
You may want to read more about the Catholic understanding of marriage here in the Catechism. It explains not only what the Catholic Church teaches but why.
Answer by eringobrough at 5:19 PM on Aug. 5, 2009
Answer by AgentBrez at 6:22 PM on Aug. 5, 2009
Answer by vabchmommy at 7:19 PM on Aug. 5, 2009
and as far as the family planning, to me that would seem a form of b.c. as well. you are still trying to prevent pregnancy by doing this
Sometimes it is the responsible thing to do to space children - because of medical, financial, emotional reasons. The CC doesn't say you have to have as many children as possible. So if the "why" you need to postpone pregnancy is valid the next question is "how". The reason God gave us sex is 2 fold - for procreation and unitive. These purposes are so interwinded that they can't be separated. But when a couple chooses to have sex they have to be open to the possiblity of having children - not actively trying to prevent it from happening. That's the difference between valid NFP and contraception.
Answer by eringobrough at 10:24 AM on Aug. 6, 2009