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bad mother in law....bad bad

ok this is a wierd situation...ok, my husband was raised by his mom and stepdad, but really its his dad he absolutly claims his as his own. He had been his dad since he was two months old... but anyway, his parents have been married for 23 years and the mom is awful, she lies and is an alarmist and is just awful. she just left his dad becuase she got pregnant by her scuba instructor. she has 5 kids two still in high school.his dad said the its ok and he forgives her and he will raise the baby and she said no. my husband loves her so much even though she had done horrible things to him in the past and present. he tries to hate her now but she is getting joy in the fact that he is so angry with this situation. they text angry words and she loves it. she loves the attention and making him care so much about her. what can i do to get him to just let go and leave her!! shes his mom but she only hurts him all the time!

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LadyDahl

Asked by LadyDahl at 3:25 AM on Aug. 6, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • It sounds as though it isn't going to happen. You would do well to be careful not to say anything against his mother. You can remain neutral and just smile and nod and change the subject. This is a problem that your husband must deal with. If it is affecting his well-being or causing him to miss work or to treat you or children poorly, then he needs counseling. Or maybe couples counseling.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 7:42 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • Well, that IS his mother. You can't really do much about it. She can be a prostitute for all I care and the son will ALWAYS love her. What he needs to do is just ignore her for atleast a week. Being ignored is the worst thing and it will make her realize what she's done but he needs to be up for the challenge. Have you told hiom exactly how its affecting you that he keeps getting hurt by his own mother?
    Shamerika

    Answer by Shamerika at 8:48 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • There's nothing you can do, really. You could talk to him, but don't expect him to change. Let him know how it affects you and leave it at that.
    DrJChappell

    Answer by DrJChappell at 10:31 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

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