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too different?

he refuses to comprimise. constantly nags and critisizes the way i am, operate, and think. constantly expresses he thinks we are just too different and how he wishes i could just change. insight on how to deal w this spoiled brat asshole please.

 
courtneynicole1

Asked by courtneynicole1 at 6:35 AM on Aug. 6, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Move on.... he will never change and you will never do anything right by him.
    Save yourself alot of heartache and preserve you.
    BITTERSWEET72

    Answer by BITTERSWEET72 at 7:58 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • It sounds as though couples counseling is the choice. Good luck!
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 7:22 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • I would more on while you still have self esteem.I don't see him changing at all.
    mommorgan

    Answer by mommorgan at 7:51 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • These are character issues, which should be the number one priority to look at in the selection of a mate. If you aren't married to him, I'd say throw this one back. If you are married to him, then you didn't make a really wise choice, but you do have some options that might get his attention. One of those options is in drawing some boundary lines around what you will and will not tolerate without there being some consequences for his behavior. In other words, if he chooses to behave childishly, then you treat him pretty much as you would a child. But this will only be effective if he has made vows to you. Then you have the leverage of holding him accountable to his vows. If no vows have been made, then you have nothing to hold him to and no way to hold him accountable to make him want to change. And unless he wants to change, it will not happen.
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 8:50 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • HE, as in boyfriend, husband? He needs to like/love you for you. You do not have to change you for anyone. Tell him to go find someone who is right for him. You are not it.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 9:58 AM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • I am in total agreeance with NannyB. Take her advice.
    Cavalrybaby02

    Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 10:04 AM on Aug. 6, 2009