While my son Nick was away for the week I decided to do some laundry for him so he would have some clean clothes when he got home from the camping trip. When I was emptying the pockets in a pair of his shorts I found a condom! It took me a minute to come back from the shock but I do not know what to do. I know that if he has it and is actaully having sex, he is at least being reasponsible. But then the fear came over me that just because he has it doesnt mean he used it/will use it. What if its in his pocket because he had sex and didnt use it!! Should I confront him or have his dad deal with this one?? I am just very shocked about this whole thing and it is just another reminder that Nicholas is not a little boy any more he is 17. Yes he does have a girlfriend and they have been together for over 2 yrs ( I believe it is 3 as of October). Please Ladies I have no idea how to deal with this.Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 4:04 PM on Aug. 6, 2009
Answer by munch12502 at 4:04 PM on Aug. 6, 2009
My heart broke the first time I found out about my boys (babies) having sex for the first time. It's already happening whether you like it or not and you can't stop him from doing it ( no pun intended) so now...have the talk and look at the con- he is being responsible and using condoms. Every family is different so discuss what you expect of him from this point on and just help him to safe and smart.
Answer by Anonymous at 4:10 PM on Aug. 6, 2009
I'd have his condom sitting on his dresser with a note that says "good for you for being responsible". I used to buy my son condoms. We didn't discuss it a lot but I always made sure they were in the linen closet for him. I don't think there is a lot of need for discussion but a pat on the back would be good. Praise good behavior.
Answer by admckenzie at 4:11 PM on Aug. 6, 2009
Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 5:10 PM on Aug. 6, 2009
Answer by MommaTasha1003 at 5:11 PM on Aug. 6, 2009
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Answer by ambr2006 at 12:04 AM on Aug. 7, 2009
Answer by inahdnako at 1:07 AM on Aug. 7, 2009
Next question overall
Does your hubby/SO travel often? What do you do while they're gone?