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should i give birth at home?

i just want to know about a waterbirth at home. i'm pregnant with my second, due on christmas day and i don't want to be away from my daughter when i go into labour. i just want to know what people think i should do?

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Asked by doodle2009 at 5:14 PM on Aug. 6, 2009 in Pregnancy

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  • find midwives around your area that will do a home/water birth
    talk to them
    i think it is an awesome idea, i had planned on a waterbirth in a birthcenter near a hospital, but i went into labor at only 18 wks and had to go to the emergency room and deliver him at the L&D at the hospital that the birthcenter transfers emergency cases too.
    i would love to do it still and hope i can. and if for some reasons i cant at a birthcenter or at home i still want as little interventions or as natural and with water at a hospital.
    from the day i found out i was pregnant i was researching and finding out as much as i could online, and touring birthcenters talking to midwives.

    Answer by codysmama2609 at 5:24 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • What if you need an emergency c section b/c something has gone wrong. What if you hemorrhage and need a dr's intervention. What if some other unforseen medical issue arises during birth?? There is no where to wheel you off to at home. Is it worth dieing for on Christmas day???

    You have to expect the best, but plan for the worst!!!


    Answer by Anonymous at 5:24 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • go with midwives in the hospital.... just in case they have a doc they can always consult with..


    Answer by Morgain at 5:26 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • You should join a group on cafemom for homebirth. We are actually having a homebirth and I'm due in 2 weeks. Anon %:24 is obviously not that educated about midwives or her own body. Buy some books! Do some research online. Go rent the movie "The Business of Being Born".
    My midwife is wonderful and very experienced. We live 5 min from the hospital, so if my midwife noticed something wasn't right, transfer would be easy, safe, and quick. Women have been laboring at home for centuries! Our bodies were designed to give birth... and most medical interventions have to be counteracted with another. I hope you do a lot of research on this. I understand that homebirth isn't for everyone, but I believe that it is the most special and intimate thing you can do for yourself, your relationship with your S/O, and for your baby! Good luck!

    Answer by shypaine at 5:32 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • Women have been dieing at home for centuries too!!

    If something went wrong you'd have to wait for the ambulance to arrive too.... 5-10 minutes for the ambulance to arrive, 5-10 for them to triage you and get you in the bus, 5- 10 minutes to get you to the hospital.... that 15-30 minutes your baby have been in distress... not a change to take with your baby's life is it?? Remember, if something does go wrong every minute of air your baby doesn't get insures brain damage!!


    Answer by Anonymous at 5:52 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • Midwives arent stupid. They are highly trained in the medical field as well...They know when an emergency may come up and are either prepared to take care of it or prepared to get you to the hospital. Don't let what everyone else thinks influence what YOU want! Just because some people swear that it's the worst idea ever because ANYTHING could happen including DEATH, doesn't mean that you should educate yourself about it and look into it. I am due in 2 weeks and we are birthing at home and I have a pool for a waterbirth if that is what I choose. You are going to get so many different responses that will tell you NOT to or to DO IT, all with their own reasons and blah blah blah....go get some books, watch movies, do everything to educate yourself and then YOU make the decision. Get in touch with midwives in your are and talk to them...and stop asking what everyone else the end their opions, including mine, won't mat

    Answer by LandonsMa0403 at 6:11 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • matter. Good luck!

    Answer by LandonsMa0403 at 6:11 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • Anon :24 and :52--Actually I was watching a documentary on waterbirths and homebirths and there hasn't been a death from an assisted homebirth in over 30 years. That's what the midwives are for. They are especially trained in that area. Perhaps instead of seeing negatives in something you should look at the positives. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but trying to scare someone out of something that you don't believe in is just mean. I personally wouldn't do a homebirth but I've seen that there are many positives in it. Like the others said, go for it if it's what you want and check into midwives.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:19 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • Until recently, homebirth has been the natural mode of delivery since the beginning of humankind. It has only been in the last century that out-of-home birthing became the norm, a change engineered by ambitious men during a time when it was believed best to bring the natural world under control. What resulted in the birthing world was a surge into the hospital. It started with a fad, developed into a sign of prestige, then became pervasive when fear took over. With it came the inevitable spiral of cause and effect: the more intervention was introduced, the more it was needed, until birth was no longer recognizable as a natural process in human experience. Instead, it had been orchestrated into an assembly line procedure complete with time constraints, quotas, indifferent workers, procedures manuals, and loss of individual rights and autonomy.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:08 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

  • One of the main concerns about homebirth voiced by many women is the lack of emergency care readily available if the need should arise. A good homebirth midwife, however, is well trained in avoiding and handling complications and performing neonatal resuscitation. She has the proper tools with which to control hemorrhage if the need arises. She is well versed in normal birth and is willing and ready to transport a woman to the hospital if it becomes necessary. Because she has come to know the woman on an intimate level, having done all the lengthy prenatals herself, she is well equipped to handle emotional issues that may arise during birth. Her intuition and instinct are consciously developed and their use is a priority in the kind of care she gives. She is comfortable with offering massage and hugs and cradling the woman in her arms.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:10 PM on Aug. 6, 2009

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