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Planned, unplanned? Do people always ask this question?

My answer is both. We planned to have two, we just never planned when.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:48 AM on Aug. 7, 2009 in Pregnancy

Answers (14)
  • i am now preggo with my 2nd and neither my first nor this one were planned....this one was a huge shock though....but happy non the less

    Answer by Mamaof2boys0709 at 10:50 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • No one ever asked me that question.

    Answer by HisMommySince07 at 10:50 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • my parents did because id only been with my man (now hubby) for 3 months. we planned him. we were engaged and we got married when i was 30 weeks pregnant. i wouldn't change it for the world. i love our little family :)

    Answer by ilovenoah26 at 10:52 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • my friend is married and just found out she is preg. (been married about 6 months). Someone asked me the other day if they were trying. I was like I dont know, but Im sure they know what causes I guess they were. LOL

    Answer by ria7 at 10:53 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • People asked me all the time, I think I was asked because I am young, and most people assumed it was unplanned, but it was planned and they acted shocked, which pissed me off :) lol

    Answer by mommyBrooke849 at 10:54 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • That is just a question you ask when you want to pass judgment on someone. I don't see how your sex life and BC is anyone's business.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:58 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • People ask me that all the time but it is, I think, because my kids are so close together. My first two are 13 months apart and now the new baby and my current youngest will be 20 months apart. LIke you we have planned how many we want (5) but not when they come.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:05 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • Everyone assumed with both my kids that they weren't planned. Actually with my first we tried for 6 months. My second was a big shock but I don't think it's appropriate to comment on that fact!

    Answer by MommyKKay at 11:21 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • I hated when people asked that. When they asked I always replied, neither. Sure I got a weird look but they knew from my tone I ment mind your flipping business. Family already knew the answer.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:36 AM on Aug. 7, 2009

  • I don't think anyone has asked me. But our parents knew we were trying so it wasn't like they didn't know. I think most people that know us well figure we planned it.

    Answer by Christina807 at 12:37 PM on Aug. 7, 2009

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