Ok, here is the deal. I have an elderly family member taking care of her family member. (Bea and Dee.) Bea is unable to take care of Dee anymore. Dee keeps falling, forgetting to take her medicine and eat. She is diabetic. Bea is her "caregiver". She drives Dee places and does the shopping and cleaning. Bea is old. She cannot physically do this any more. She doesn't WANT to do this any more.
I am not "related by blood". This woman's children are not doing anything to help. They ignore everything that is going on. (Because Bea always says things are fine.)
Bea really doesn't want Dee to go into a nursing home and Dee will not go.
What are the options available, how do we as a family approach this? It has become a problem for them. HELP...
Asked by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Aug. 7, 2009 in Relationships
There are aides that can come in and cook, clean and remind Dee to take her meds. They can also send nurses to put meds in their boxes (the daily pill holder) and can even give the meds. My grandmother was terrified of a nursing home, my mother and I did our best to keep her out. She had an aid 3 days a week (could get more if necessary) a nurse twice a week check glucose, bp etc. They also got Meals on Wheels at lunch each day. My grandparents were on medicare, we went through our Department of Social Services (that's what it's called here in our area). There are things that can help, you just have to contact the right people.
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