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My husband and i are seperated,i have 2 kids with him

we havent filed for divorce as of yet,but he wants to.I live in newyork and i havent yet filed for child support,i will soon i have been a sahm for almost 5 years am i entitled for alimony??? He keeps saying i want alimony on spite.Its 25 % of his annual income which is 73k and 10% alimony am i correct????And how does this alimony thing work???? Any helpful answers will be appreciated.

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:37 PM on Aug. 11, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Contact a lawyer. They'd have better answers to your questions.

    Answer by MommyLee08 at 9:45 PM on Aug. 11, 2009

  • Yup, get a lawyer and don't let your husband bully you into not taking something, especially if you've been at home raising his kids for 5 years. It's going to be hard for you to find a job.

    Answer by feesharose at 9:52 PM on Aug. 11, 2009

  • check your state statutes to see if you have been married long enough for spousal support. Just google : new york spousal support (or spousal maintenance). It also usually depends if you are capable of working and the age of the child.

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:55 PM on Aug. 11, 2009

  • You can usually get a free consult with an attorney. I don't know the law in NY, but I know for NC there are child support calculators online, just google child support calculator NY. It should give you at least a close estimate on what to expect based on each person's income, and number of children.

    Answer by missanc at 9:57 PM on Aug. 11, 2009

  • Alimony isn't about spite. It is something you are entitled to so you can survive until you are able to get back in the job market because you took years out of your like to take care of your husband and your children.

    Answer by GailllAZ at 10:20 PM on Aug. 11, 2009

  • not sure i know bout child support but idk

    Answer by anarose26 at 10:30 PM on Aug. 11, 2009

  • anon 1029 get a life yes you should qualify for alimony and honestly i dont know how alimony works so you would be best to talk to a lawyer about it before you do anything... men expect us to put our professional lives on hold to raise our families and then when they decide they want to move on we have to jump right back in to a work force that we have no skills for if you get alimony i would highly rec going back to school now isnt a good time to find a job unless u already have a degree as for anon 1029 of course it would take some to post something like that anon!! probably some bitter 2nd wife whos dh pays alimony lol

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 2:47 AM on Aug. 13, 2009

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