not sure what you mean? When my son was about 8 I remember complaining to my aunt that he just could never do what I asked, not take out the garbage for example even. My aunt told me that her husband in his forties then couldn't even take out the garbage why on earth would I expect that an 8 year old could do it.
Try a chore chart with privileges for accommpishments on it as rewards - he chooses a game for family game night, he gets to choose a dinner, he gets to choose a breakfast restaurant - things like that...
is he a dreamer? But he pays attention in school but not at home? Maybe he needs an activity that's physical to let out his dreams, steam. Karate, Boy Scouts, 4H has tons and tons of groups of all different kinds. After school art classes? Is his school work affected by not listening? ADD?
at 9:51 AM on Aug. 12, 2009