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Have you ever noticed.....

that whenever someone qualifies a response with "I'm not racist BUT...." it's immediately followed by the most racist thing that one could possibly say?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:18 AM on Aug. 12, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • sometimes its not so much racist, as ignorant. I think I saw the post your talking about, the nanny one?

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 10:20 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • lol yes but I am probably guilty of that to some degree.

    I think it is funny when people will gossip and tear someone to shreds then follow it with "bless their heart"

    Answer by ria7 at 10:20 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • I was speaking in general terms, I've seen this on more than one post on this site.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:24 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • sometimes generalizations even when true can appear racist and since rasicm is a very strong stigma, people will qualify their observations.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:45 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • Why are we stiring the "racist pot" again. You can say the same thing for people who start a comment by saying, "I don't want to be mean, but......". Why on earth do you have to focus on something as trite as "racist"? If you will stop stiring, it will go away, but you can't let it go away can you? You think you loose your advantage. I will say this as kindly as I can - LET IT GO!

    Answer by jesse123456 at 10:59 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • I agree, I don't much think it's always racist just ignorant. They don't know better how to explain what they're saying so they don't come off sounding racist.

    It's like when I say "I can't stand black people" I can't seem to get people to understand what I mean when typing but if I saw them face to face I can explain it so when they laugh and say, well then in that case "I can't stand Asian people" (when they're Asian themselves).

    Oh, btw, I'm joking when I say I can't stand black people (I'm a woman of color myself). But come on every race, religion, ethnic group has black sheep that make them say "I can't stand ____ people"

    Answer by Ladybugkisses76 at 11:02 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • Kind of like when someone says to you "No offense but..." then says something really offensive? I think they feel that if they say that first, that covers them!

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:11 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • I've noticed the same thing! Also when people say "no offense" and then say something really insulting! Haha, like the "no offense" protects them for the rude thing they're about to say!

    Answer by beckcorc at 11:16 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • Oops, I just repeated the previous poster.... no offense!!!


    Answer by beckcorc at 11:16 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

  • What if I said
    ~ I'm not racist but I do think a lot of black people are annoying with all their "ghetto" crap
    ~I'm not racist but I don't really find black men attractive
    ~I'm not racist but I don't like talking to mexicans because I can never understand their accent

    Those are not personal opinions, just examples (I grew up in a black neighborhood, my niece and nephew are half mexican)

    Are those examples of what you are trying to say?

    Answer by OwensMama824 at 11:41 AM on Aug. 12, 2009

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