my husband is a porn guy, (as i've posted before) its gotten so bad that i don't know what to do anymore, i told him that if he ever did it again, i was going to leave. its hurting our relationship, and ruining our family. he has tried hiding it from me, and said he wasn't doing it anymore,(lies) because i would be looking on his comp. and i find out he's lieing to me again, so when he calls from work i ask him to be honest w/me and to tell me if he's done anything lately. and i get the typical same answer from him, 'no i haven't done anything, why can't you just trust me?!' (ya he had the nerve to say that to me) well i tell him i know he's done it and he says 'no' until i say the site he's been on, and when it was. thats when he confesses.(of course only after alot of yelling and stuff first)well its been a few months since i found something, and he says he's stopped...but i can't belive him who knows maybe he's hiding it?
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Answer by Anonymous at 10:14 PM on Aug. 12, 2009
I understand your frustration by the responses but try to look at from his perspective. What is it about the porn that bugs you so much? I get how you see it as nasty but obviously he likes it. Therefore maybe you could try understanding him a little and not accuse so much. No adult likes to be scolded like a child. Be proactive not destructive. Do you really want to put your children through divorce over porn? I don't mean that in a bitchy way just something you need to consider. Instead of cutting him off from it perhaps set up some ground rules like when and how long or could you watch with him? Just consider it before y'all let your family get torn apart.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:44 PM on Aug. 12, 2009
Have you asked him if there are times when he feels to watch it more then others? Like what triggers him to look at it. Sometimes they do it out of boredom or a stress reliever. Look past your hurt and try to see the big picture. Is he on the computer every chance he has or is it at certain times of the day or just random? Do the two of have sex and how often? Is he content with the amount? Him looking may make you feel inadequate but other than the porn, does he tell you he doesn't desire you?
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