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they both try that you love the other more and I try to be fair in all I do. Now it has become a problem ... if I do for one and not the other it's utter chaos! and run off as if their feelings are really hurt then I am hurt, but sometime one of them needs something that the other one doesn't at that time.Answer Question
Siblings will be siblings that is just the way it goes...
I also have an 8 year old boy and a 6 year old girl and I know what hell you go through...lol
Every once in awhile when one is busy I'll grab the other and start holding them and kissing them and tickling them and of course the other hears this and wants a piece of the action so there I go doing it to the other..oh but I love it I usually tell them will you still let me do this to you when you guys are teenagers..they laugh and say yes we will (we both know that is not going to happen...lol) Oh about the aggressive part I no it's wrong but I tell my girl to just fight back hurt him the way he hurts her even though she doesn't hurt him atleast in her mind she is getting some satisfaction. GL
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I have 8 brothers and sisters we always picked on each other. If it got on my mothers nerves she would send us outside rain or shine snow or hail and tell us to "take it outside and settle it there". Sometimes she would step in and tell us we were not to look at each other touch each other etc etc and put us in separate rooms If worse comes to worse and they are really getting on your last nerve....punishment. Take away something of value to them or a special trip somewhere
Answer by justgrape723 at 11:01 AM on Aug. 14, 2009
BLAME THEM EQUALLY. Don't take sides. That's exactly what they want you to do so that one can be winner. The winner will gloat and the loser will be really mad and wait for revenge. Tell them they both need to go to their room.
I used to blame my son because he hit, then I figured out my daughter was actually initiating it with the things she said. After I figured it out I did talk to her and let her know that just because she was no hitting, her words hurt too!
Here are some books on sibling rivalry which might help http://astore.amazon.com/wwwcjkidzcom3-20?node=5&page=1
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