I'm all up for a spanking, but at this age (from a child who was spanked aggressively) I think she's too old for that. I wonder, when you take things away, for how long you are doing it? This is what I would do, in this order. Take away everything. TV, Internet, Phone, cell phone, going out privileges. This means, not only taking them from her room, but also not letting her watch the tv in the front room, or go out with her friends. If, as you said, that doesn't work, add on chores and volunteer work. Maybe helping the less fortunate or someone in need will help her. If that doesn't work, add on tasks. Read this book, here's war and peace. (Lol, I'm kidding, but you know what I mean) I hope it helps, these are things I'd definitely respond to at that age!
at 10:02 AM on Jun. 23, 2008