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ok, so .... ideas? we need to spice it up!

my husband and i have DEFINITELY hit a dry spell in our sex lives. he never seems interested [at least not when i am], and we both work... leaving little time to get it on. i need something that's a real attention getter... ideas? what works to get you out of a rut?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 6:38 PM on Aug. 15, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • french maid outfit
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:39 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • lol try random spontanious suprise oral....when you feel up to it anyways lol

    and yes i am answering this non anon
    tiffandgene2009

    Answer by tiffandgene2009 at 6:41 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • do you think he'd be mad if i woke him up in the middle of the night to do that? if he had to get up early early the next morning, i mean.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:43 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • go to a sex shop, it worked for a little while but it got back to plain ole boring after a while. for those of you who do not know a sex shop isn't where swingers go... go buy toys and stuff, outfits etc.
    nakoal87

    Answer by nakoal87 at 6:55 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • Mine wouldn't mind being woken up to oral. Especially with it already in your mouth when he wakes.
    sounthernmommy

    Answer by sounthernmommy at 6:56 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • YOu each take some time to write down your fantasies. Everything you've wanted to try. From the romantic to the outrageously kinky. Even the ones you know you'll never do. YOu might be surprised to see what you and your DH have in common. It will be a sort of "if you like pina coladas" moment (look up the song if you haven't heard it!). SOmetimes it is hard to try new things in the bed room because you aren't sure how your mate will react. This gives you a little more confidence when you do it. DH and I tried this and damn, we found out a lot about each other, and its really been a sex booster.
    katzmeow726

    Answer by katzmeow726 at 7:57 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • I'd say remove all distraction from your room. Don't leave a basket of laundry hanging out, freshen it up, take the TV out, anything that doesn't "belong" there. Make time for sex, take your time, do something he likes, communicate. I know what you mean about being tired, I'm 32 weeks pregnant.
    mlregalado

    Answer by mlregalado at 12:35 AM on Aug. 16, 2009

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