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How to handle conflicting parenting styles?

The neighborhood children are sweet, but are raised differently than my kids are.
So I don't want to be a mean mom, but what to do when our family values differ?? I am just not comfortable having them play together.
Anyone else have ideas or experiences?

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:01 PM on Aug. 15, 2009 in General Parenting

Answers (3)
  • You need to be secure in your parenting skills. We all parent differently, and you can't keep your children from having friends.

    At your house, you get to enforce your rules.

    Answer by rkoloms at 9:07 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • (OP here)
    rkoloms: My children do have plenty of friends (similar values), they just aren't directly across the street...
    So did you mean my values need to be "checked at the door" over at their house or that they just shouldn't play over there?

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:36 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

  • How different are they? Are their parenting styles putting your children in any danger? You can enforce your parenting style as long as you are within your children's presence. I wouldn't go about disagreeing with how they are raising their children. Just go over there or be outside when your kids play with them. You could also speak with their parents and ask them to enforce your rules with -your- children when they are watching them. My parenting style clashes with my friend's, but I gladly enforce her rules with her daughter when her child is in my presence. If their kids are with you, but not their parents, you can enforce your rules. Try to keep the peace. Kids shouldn't have to suffer.

    Answer by ShadesofGrey at 10:45 PM on Aug. 15, 2009

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