My husband and I been married for 4 yrs both of us been married before but it has seemed so hard . I m just curious to see how many of you have had same struggles. With us theres been alot of bringing up past relationships,fighting over money,kids,alcohol, abuse and wonder will it ever get any easier . I know blended familys are hard but I never thought it would be this hard so how long does it take before things get easier ?Answer Question
Answer by clhadley at 1:22 AM on Aug. 16, 2009
Answer by bizebe at 1:32 AM on Aug. 16, 2009
I would encourage you to look at your spouse as another human just trying to find his way in life just like you. Drawing out those similarities I thnk help to build understanding in the relationship. Start trying to figure out ways to build him up instead of tearing him down, whether it be through actions or words. Marriage is hard, but it is rewarding. It was very difficult for my and my husband the first few years, and it still is at times. Understanding where the other person is coming from and why they act the way they do is so very helpful to avoid unnecessary hurt feelings, anger, and disunity. We have been married almost 6 years now and are going very strong.
Answer by squish at 1:57 AM on Aug. 16, 2009
It was really hard for us. He was used to his single life were he can just get up and go and not having to answer to anybody, plus the money alcohol etc. issues, that pissed me off so I always nagged him. He realized he wasn't single anymore and changed his ways and I just stopped nagging him. We realized if we talk about our problems instead of bottle them it helps. We have been married for 6 1/2 years now and we couldn't be happier, were a team. Marriage is a challenge were you live and learn something new weather it's about life or each other, but that's what makes it great.
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