People bully because their insecure and fearful. They never want to be the underdog and they want to keep an upper hand on all their relationships out of protection of their own hearts. I was not a bully as child, but quite the opposite. I was much more timid and shy and was on the receiving end of the bullies. Now that I am older, I went through a particular situation in which I put my heart out and thought other people were going to care for it like they told me they would but they didnt. I got so hurt and in the next 2 years, I became a bully. I would deliberately start fights with people for no reason. I hated that feeling. Ive come down a bit but what I learned is that I dont have to bully people to make myself feel better, but it is okay to stand up for myself. I dont take crap from anyone, but I still make sure everyone gets the same love, compassion and respect they deserve from me. Moderation is key!
at 2:57 PM on Aug. 16, 2009