Why it is that when people get married they are suddenly turned into people who are shadows of themselves. When the dating was going on these people were fun loving and care free but as soon as the ring is put on the finger (or maybe a few years later) the fun has come to a complete stop or at least a trickle. Its like when the dating is going on its a chase to see how the one can dazzle the other and then once they have the othehr, thats pretty much it. I know children have a lot to do with this. One grows up and the other doesn't (not true for everyone I know) But in most cases this is true. People get set thinking I don't have to fight anymore and what happens next...one person goes out and finds "fun" with someone else. (again not for everyone, just saying) Why is it this way, why does it take losing someone to realize what was "not" going on anymore. Why does the fun and love whisper away for someone else to hear.
Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 12:17 PM on Aug. 17, 2009
Answer by NOLAmommaKRYS at 12:07 PM on Aug. 17, 2009
It doesn't, but it takes work from both partners to keep the spark alive. That can be really hard to do when you have young children because life revolves around them. But eventually they do grow up and that's when you realise that is was well worth the effort.
Answer by beeky at 12:34 PM on Aug. 17, 2009
this is why I don't encourage marriage. It's happened to me 3 times. Once we said the I DO it went down hill from there. Now I'm single and have no desire to ever screw up my life again by getting married. It's just not my thing. I love the fun and spontaneity of what I have now.
Answer by admckenzie at 12:38 PM on Aug. 17, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:56 PM on Aug. 17, 2009