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what should i do?

hey cafe mom! i have a boyfriend who i love very much. Just recently his ex girlfriend called him and she wants to meet up with him. She's still in love with him and he over her but still considers her to be one of his best friends. They dated back in 03. I have a problem with it because i don't know this girl and i know for a fact that she still wants him. My boyfriend is a lil casanova(lol) he likes to flirt with girls so i assuming that hes leading her onto something but i told him before that he needs to learn how to control his conversations with his female friends!! ughhh what should i do??

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Aug. 17, 2009 in Relationships

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  • If one of his female friends is one of his ex's and he knows she wants to get back with him then he should leave her alone...

    Answer by mom2mybabes at 3:16 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • suggest he not meet up with her. ?

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:16 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • If he goes to see a ex that still wants him that is leading her on right there. If he loves you enough he should steer clear of her.

    Answer by angels4262 at 3:26 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • The three of you should get together – invite her over for Sunday brunch. When you are in a long term relationship, you get to know each other’s friends.

    Answer by rkoloms at 3:26 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • He should not even talk to her, but getting him to do that is another thing! If he really wants to try to persue a friendship with her, then you should be included. If he meets her you need to be there. Then if you try to befriend her she may decide it would be wrong to interfer in your relationship, but some woman don't care.....but you'll show your bf that you are the bigger person. Now this is only if you can't get him to leave her alone....if he insists on meeting with her, then you go with him!

    Answer by robinann5 at 3:27 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • Why are you even with a guy that's a huge flirt? Obviously, he doesn't respect you or your relationship. I can see your relationship heading south.

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:29 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • um. break up with him, move on, find someone who treats you better. hes obviously a cheater.

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 3:41 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • i have the same problem! My boyfriend has a lot of exes that hes still friends with and since Im in love with him it makes it hard to do anything. I dont want to be a b**** and tell him he cant hang out with them but i dont want to get hurt. So its hard but if he loves you he wont do anything to hurt you

    Answer by meg_dog1 at 4:07 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • A BF shouldn't be hanging out with ex's period! Women need to grow up these days...they just let their men do anything because they don't want to be 'bitches'.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:36 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

  • Tell him to go right ahead and see her, but that you will be moving on. Unless of course, you don't mind being a part of his harem as opposed to wife to some man with character, devotion, and commitment to you and only you.

    Answer by NannyB. at 4:51 PM on Aug. 17, 2009

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