i resently found out that who i thouht the father of my child wasn't the father of my child and he still want's to be there for me and my daughter and we're still 17 and he's tryin to adopt her i contacted the sperm doner of my daughter and he said he'd get the dna test and give up his rights cause he wants nothing to do with her so we're so happy he said that but we don't know how the adoption things work out any one know anything about this subject or anything help i've called an adoptions layer and they still haven't called back and i keep callin them and calling themAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:32 PM on Aug. 17, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by Anonymous at 11:39 PM on Aug. 17, 2009
Just things to think about. I have seen many teen relationships and marriages not work out well. Some do. Many do not. This is YOUR baby and also YOUR responsibility. I'm going to be very honest with you that I would be scared that if I were you: if it didn't work out I would be sharing my baby with a man that no longer cared about me and two he might one day have complete custody of her if we break up. If he adopts, and I'm not saying he shouldn't, then he has equal rights to that child as you. Which means he can seek full custody of her and have equal chance of doing that. Just think about very carefully if you can be okay with the idea that if something happened to your relationship he could have full guardianship. On the other hand nothing prevents you from waiting a few years, having him part of your child's life, and if something happens you still have your child without anyone to give you grief over custody.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:40 AM on Aug. 18, 2009
You should not rush into this. Make sure your relationship with this guy is solid. Is he really ready to commit to you and your child. Like is he ready to marry you? Wait until after that.
Also, I know the father wants nothing to do with her, but please be sure not to talk bad about him in front of her and don't refer to him as the sperm donor. There may be a time when she wants to have a relationship, which even though he might not deserve, she does.
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