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This guy has to best friends who are Gay females and a longtime ago he promised her he would donate his sperm for her to have a baby with her friend. But now he is in a relationship and his girlfriend says no. He will not be sleeping with her but just donating. Whats you take on this situation? Should he donate or listen to his girlfriend who is strongly aganist him doing it for his best friend.


Asked by grandmasix at 9:51 AM on Aug. 18, 2009 in Relationships

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  • i don't know what i think because a child is a gift and the girlfriend doesn't have children with him and if the friend has his first child,the gf will feel robbed i guess. it's sad,but a fact that women have a hard time w/other women's children fathered by their man. Ideally, he should have donated while still single. i personally don't believe there is a such thing as just a sperm donor, that child would be his however u want to look at it. It would be easier if they had a child together and/or the gf was very close with the gay couple. You can't just say the gf is selfish because a child is a very important decision. when a woman loves a man, she often wants to have a child with him- she probably wants that bond with him. i'm not saying it's wrong for him to help his close friends have a child, but now that he's in a relationship, it is different. also, since they're good friends, he would be a part of that child's life...

    Answer by ranedare at 11:05 AM on Aug. 18, 2009

  • It depends on how close friends they are/were.

    Answer by smarshy at 10:03 AM on Aug. 18, 2009

  • "bros" before "hoes"

    Answer by AMsMommy212 at 12:02 PM on Aug. 18, 2009

  • I didnt mean to just reply that, lol.

    I think that unless he's on the verge of marrying this chick, he should do what he really feels he wants to do. Maybe he is using the gf as an excuse to back down? If not, and he really wants to help his friend become a parent, I think he should. Now if he plans on spending the rest of his life with this woman, and she has valid reasons for not wanting it, I think he should take those into consideration but Ultimately it's HIS decision, and I think he should do what he thinks is right.

    Answer by AMsMommy212 at 12:05 PM on Aug. 18, 2009

  • It's his "donation" and totally up to him. If he would rather keep the girl than keep his promise, it's his choice.

    Answer by Hazelnutkin at 1:20 PM on Aug. 18, 2009