Everytime my husband touches me, or kisses me, or says that I'm sexy I think that he wants to have sex.
Example, if I'm in the kitchen getting dinner ready and he grabs my butt, I immediately think he wants to jump into bed. And then I get frustrated and mad at him because I'm busy and I can't drop everything to have sex. And then I feel angry at myself because I used to be the type who wanted sex all the time, and now I could totally do without it.
We've talked about it, and he's explained that just because he kisses me, or grabs my butt doesn't mean he wants to do it. It's his way of showing that he still thinks I'm sexy. But I still freak out.
When we kiss I'm scared to kiss him back because I feel like that'll give him a signal that I want to have sex, when I don't. I am constantly trying to avoid physical contact in fear of sending him a "I want to have sex" signal. I want to fix this before it ruins our marriage. Help!
Asked by Anonymous at 9:51 AM on Aug. 18, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Hazelnutkin at 1:18 PM on Aug. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 9:54 AM on Aug. 18, 2009
Answer by smarshy at 10:02 AM on Aug. 18, 2009
I'd say imagine if it were the other way around. Would you feel rejected? What would you do? If he is trying to make you feel sexy still, is it possible that you aren't making him feel sexy enough? I get that you are busy, but I always prefer to have an orgasm- life is too short! And finally, THANK YOUR LUCKY STARS! This is not a huge problem in a marriage. I know it feels significant but there could be much worse going on so try to keep that in mind when dealing with it.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:06 AM on Aug. 18, 2009
Answer by Fistandantalus at 10:16 AM on Aug. 18, 2009
Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 12:00 PM on Aug. 18, 2009
Answer by brandoneaglemom at 11:42 PM on Aug. 18, 2009
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