Why try to parent this kid? He has two parents and you are not one of them. Let dad do this. Look, be his friend, play with him, have fun with him. Let him know you think he is a cool kid. It really does take two to argue. Don't want to have a battle, don't join in. It doesn't mean letting him have his way. It means dad needs to handle the tantrums so you are not always seen as evil step mom. You are in charge of safety when it comes to him, that's it. Dad sets rules, dad gives consequences, and you just have to relax and enjoy him. When he is not making good choices let his father handle that. When it comes to your children that is different because you are their mother. Dad just can enforce the same rules for your children as he does for his child. Build bridges with this child and not road blocks. Also family therapy never hurt anything. Blended families are hard so professional help is always a plus.
at 10:08 PM on Aug. 18, 2009