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Did marriage start out as a religious ceremony?

In gay marriage threads I've seen people claiming that marriage started out as a Christian church ceremony, therefore the Christian definition of what a marriage is should rule.

My question is: Did people ever get married in the ages BEFORE the birth of Christ?

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Asked by Clairwil at 1:57 AM on Aug. 19, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs

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  • Marriage started out more as alliances. Two families wanted to merge so they would have thier children marry. The engagment ring is more like payment. Once a man and woman got engaged they were basically married and the man had rights to her, so he could sleep with her before the marriage. Then if something happened, the man died or decided to call it off after taking the woman virginity, she still had the engagment ring to give to her next husband as pmnt for her lossed virginity. So even after it became a religious thing, it was still used more as gaining alliances with families. it wasnt til the late 1800's where it actually became a "love" thing.

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 2:04 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • here are some verses that might help you God bless.. This is a great question
    Deuteronomy 21:11 - And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife;
    Deuteronomy 21:12 - Then thou shalt bring her home to thine house, and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails;
    Deuteronomy 21:13 - And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.
    Deuteronomy 21:11-13 11 - if you notice among the captives a beautiful woman and are attracted to her, you may take her as your wife. 12 Bring her into your home and have her shave her head, trim her nails 13 and put aside the clothes she was wearing when captured. After she has lived in your house and mourned her father and mother for a ful

    Answer by hinson7169 at 2:04 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • Hosea 1:1-3 - When the LORD began to speak through Hosea, the LORD said to him, "Go, take to yourself an adulterous wife and children of unfaithfulness, because the land is guilty of the vilest adultery in departing from the LORD." 3 So he married Gomer daughter of Diblaim, and she conceived and bore him a son.

    Exodus 2:16-21 - Find a man with seven daughters, and impress him by watering his flock.

    Ruth 4:5-10 - Then Boaz said, "On the day you buy the land from Naomi and from Ruth the Moabitess, you acquire the dead man's widow, in order to maintain the name of the dead with his property."
    Judges 21:19-25 - Go to a party and hide. When the women come out to dance, grab one and carry her off to be your wife.

    Answer by hinson7169 at 2:05 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • Marriage acorrding to the jewish was a religious ceremony that lasted a week long. I just learned this today on Fireside chat on Wow it was really interesting.

    Answer by Shaneagle777 at 2:15 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • its only made by God duh!

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:17 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • marriage predates christianity.

    and it's not "only made by god" my marriage is entirely secular.

    Answer by autodidact at 2:34 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • Whether it is Jewish or Christian marriage still is to be between man and woman. There is no biblical example of same sex marriage. Old or new testament, it is still wrong.

    Answer by jessa1091 at 3:22 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • But there are historical precedents involving same-sex marriages in other cultures. Marriages among Roman men were not uncommon for centuries, until outlawed by the Theodosian Code in 342 AD -- by Constantine, the emperor who was seduced from his faith to christianity. There were close and committed homosexual relationships that were considered marriage, or an equivalent, throughout Europe, Asia and Africa for many centuries both before and after the construct of the christian, or even the Jewish god, was ever invented. Native American societies have had same-sex marriages noted historically, as well as male-female unions. Look up the term Boston Marriage, which was a recognized relationship of 2 females independent of men here in the 19th century. This is NOT a modern thing, anymore that the concept of marriage is stamped "property of christianity."

    Answer by roachiesmom at 4:12 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • Marriage, including same-sex marriage, predates all Abrahamic religion by thousands of years. It was "legal" in North America right up until the explorers landed and started mass slaughtering people.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 7:28 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • Yes people got married before the birth of christ. Every culture has had some form of marriage. But i think rochiesmom and notpanicking have it covered for you.

    Answer by 2autisticsmom at 7:52 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

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