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Do you think any 2 people can make a marriage work, or do you think it requires more?

Excluding abusive and harmful relationships, do you think any 2 average people could make a marriage work? Or do you think that a marriage takes more than that?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:06 AM on Aug. 19, 2009 in Relationships

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  • your not giving enough details
    no 2 people off of the street will never make a marriage work if they do not love each more specific

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:09 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • If you mean just picking two random people and putting them in a marriage, I suppose it could work, but it wouldn't necessarily be a real marriage, or a happy one. For a marriage to truly work, and to truly be happy, it requires love, respect, trust, compromise, and truly wanting to be there.

    Answer by tropicalmama at 8:13 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • It's hypothetical. So I literally mean just any 2 random people. No more details to give.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:15 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • I think that if you stuck any two random people together who were committed to making it work and HAD to 4 could definitely pull it off, but they will most likely never be happy and only in rare cases ever grow to love each other.

    Answer by Slinkee at 8:34 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • yes if both wanted it to work

    Answer by admckenzie at 8:38 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • Yes, I do believe that. All marriages used to be arranged marriages between the fathers of the newly formed couple. Divorce was practically unheard of. Commitment is far more important than the feelings of love. The other important ingredient in arranged marriages was that the families knew each other and shared similar values, beliefs, life styles, etc. Today, families of couples are most often never even consulted about the impending marriage. Too often, they don't even meet until the wedding or afterwards, if even then. So it is little wonder that there are so many divorces and so much unhappiness.

    Answer by NannyB. at 8:42 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • i think you have enough detail, i get what you mean.

    NO, i don't think just any two people can make a marriage work. People are so different from eachother, could you imagine being w/ someone who's , religious views, political views, parenting views, social views....and all that important stuff, was COMPLETELY different from yours? That would not be fun, or easy to manage.

    Answer by samurai_chica at 8:48 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • No - even back when they had arranged marriages, the marriages usually ended up being people with very similar backgrounds and values. Two people could make it work, I guess if they were both committed, but they might not be very happy.
    I don't, however, believe in "soulmates" - that there is only ONE person in the world for you and you have to find that ONE person to be truly happy. If that were the way it worked, what are the chances that ANYBODY would find that ONE person among all the people on earth - especially if your one happened to live in say Australia, or Russia?

    Answer by missanc at 8:54 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

  • I think that it could work if they both tried. The funny thing about love is that you generally find yourself falling in love with the person you are with. (If that makes sense.) The more time you spend with someone, the easier it happens when you become comfortable with that person. So, yeah, I totally think that any two people off the street could make a marriage work.

    Answer by crystac at 9:09 AM on Aug. 19, 2009

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